The Chardmore Society Play Parties take place in an old vicarage in Sutton, South London, currently on Thursday evenings and Friday afternoons. We are a friendly little group – many of us know each other socially, outside of the parties. Newcomers always find us very friendly and they quickly feel relaxed. There is definitely not a hardcore atmosphere and there is never any pressure to play. So what exactly does happen at these parties?
When you arrive, one of us (usually me) will show you around the vicarage and introduce you to a few people. There’s a kitchen, where you can store any booze you have brought along. (We don’t sell drink, so please bring your own.) You can also make tea and coffee – we do provide that! There will usually be people socialising in the kitchen, just as they do at any party.
Then we will show you to a big lounge, where people sit and chat. There will be a suitable DVD playing, but no loud music. A hallmark of The Chardmore Society is that you can chat without having to raise your voice. You can actually meet and make friends with people.
There is a dungeon, with quite a lot of BDSM equipment, including a whipping bench, cage and St Andrews Cross, etc. Soft atmospheric music plays. You can practise bondage, spank your slave, put them on the cross or in the cage. If you need it, help and advice is available from us. Otherwise, we are happy to leave you alone.
These play parties are open to all sexualities, submissive or dominant, male or female, straight, bi or gay. We are a very mixed bunch and we like it that way. Expect around 20 people.
Then there are four other rooms, which would originally have been bedrooms. I usually put some item of BDSM equipment into these rooms. My favourite is the motorbunny, which is like a superior version of the sybian. Women love the motorbunny; you can see it here http://kfsmagazine.com/motorbunny/ If you bring a smartphone, you can download the free app and find the right rhythm to send your partner into ecstasy.
There’s also a changing room. These parties have no particular dress code. You can come as you are, by all means. Having said that, quite a few people like to change into a fetish outfit, which I encourage. It’s fine if you like to dress up, undress or cross-dress. T-girls are welcome, as are dominatrixes, adult schoolgirls with their hair in bunches – whatever you like. There’s a shower that you are welcome to use and plenty of clean towels. Just in case you get a bit sweaty…
You can wander around the rooms, chat with other couples or singles, just generally hang out. You may want to play with people you meet, but that’s up to you – there is no obligation to do anything at all with anyone. Just relax and have fun.
What else? Well, there are rules…
* No smoking or vaping in the building, of course.
* No drugs of any kind at all – don’t even think about it.
* No photography. (The photos here were taken at the vicarage, but after the party had finished)
* If you want to play with someone, feel free to ask politely but, if they decline, no means no.
* If you are playing in one of the rooms, don’t lock the door. Someone might like to come in and then it’s up to you to wave them away, or allow them to watch, or even invite them to join in if you like. Your choice.
If you would like to go onto my “Chardmore Society” party mailing list, or if you have any questions. just email me at firstname.lastname@example.org